Tuesday, February 15, 2011

TRDC - 5 Minutes That Mattered


The assignment is: after you have died, your daughter/son will be given the gift of seeing a single five-minute period of your life through your eyes, feeling and experiencing those moments as you did when they occurred. What five minutes would you have him/her see? 

I could see the brick house from where I crouched in the woods. The sun was still slightly warm on my shoulders, but the minutes counting down to the creeping chill of approaching dark where not far away. I was still breathing heavy from the exertion of jumping logs, moving stones and narrowly escaping the clutches of an evil sorcerer. It had been a ingenious plan of escape with only the birds that hovered in the trees above to witness. Behind me the last specks of magic were falling to the woods floor. Their tinkling sounds muted by leaves that had recently fallen heralding in another season. In front of me, the house. Real life complete with hushed whispers surrounding my dying grandfather and the heaviness of time that magic can't heal.


My beloved grandfather was dying and was spending some of his last days at his farm. It was one of his many ventures, this farm; with its now untended fruit orchards, barren vegetable gardens, a pasture where cows now longer grazed lazily and woods that still held fleeting magic for a young girl precariously balanced between being a princess battling a sorcerer and a young adult dealing with the death of a loved grizzled old man.

In the next five minutes I was going to have to emerge from the woods and open the door to the house. The door that used to open to a weary and triumphant princess. Welcoming her back with the smells of warm bread sticks, seasoned meat and a pie if lucky. PawPaw would be sitting in his recliner watching National Geographic and complaining about how late dinner was although it was always right on time. Nana would be scurrying around like a little sparrow tending her nest and making sure that everything was in its perfect place. There was just enough time before I had to scrub up to rattle off to PawPaw what adventures I had. It was these few moments that I could make his eyes sparkle. He could see the magic.


This time there would be no complaining about dinner. He rarely ate anymore. There would be no sparkle in his eyes. His eyes no longer focused on the magic. I picked up a small stone from the edge of the woods and ran my finger over its texture. It was a stone just like this that I had used to line the path to my cottage that I had spent the summer building out of twigs and branches. There was still magic in this stone. If I closed my eyes tight enough against the pain of life I could feel it pulse in my hand. In those last five minutes I made a choice for the rest of my life. I knew this would probably be the last time I would be in those magical woods. I knew that in the coming weeks I would say goodbye forever to the magic sparkle in my PawPaw's eyes. With the stone clutched firmly in my hand I pushed myself away from the shelter of those woods, but the magic was coming with me.

No matter what stabbing pain the life outside of the woods would bring, I would hold onto that small pulse of magic. I would share it with whoever would be willing to see it and I would always see the sparkle in someone's eyes. In those last five minute, I was choosing to hold onto something that would not die as long as I held tightly to it and believed in its power to always take me back to the woods where my heart and the birds hovering in the trees held witness to the power of magic.

Monday, February 14, 2011

We are way past that fluffy heart thing...

Sometimes the whole squishy fluffy heart ordeal of Valentine's Day gets to me. By "gets to me", I mean throw up in my mouth a little and roll my eyes. Especially the commercials for jewelry companies. Way to make light of my love by throwing a little you must purchase bling out there. It's as if my love isn't real if I am not in a remote cabin during a thunderstorm with my man there to wrap his arms around me and slide a chain around my neck....wait...doesn't that sound a lot like a slasher film?
 
Anyways, my man and I...we are way past that fluffy heart thing. We've moved past the conversation heart that says "Love ya" and into the screaming from the bathroom when the paper roll is empty, "I need you!!"

I think the "I need you!!" phase is so much more indicative of true love, lasting love.

"I need you!!" (the kids just flushed a wonder pet, whole roll of toilet paper and my wallet. I'm now standing ankle deep in some sort of sludge that is making my skin crawl. Actually I think something is crawling around down here.)

"I need you!!" (I thought I would hang some curtains and somehow I got twisted around to where I am stuck on a ladder with fabric swirled around my head.)

"I need you!!" (I just suffered a finger slice from the kitchen knife you keep way too sharp and although I am not going to bleed to death here, I need to be over dramatic and get a band-aid)

"I need you!!" (I'm standing in the parking lot of a huge store and actually forgot where I parked the car. I've been wandering the aisles for 20 minutes in the rain and just needed you to remind me to hit the stupid panic button on the car remote. Oh...look that blinking, honking car 3 spaces over is mine.)

"I need you!!" (I was walking up the stairs with our dinner from take-out and my water just broke. We should go to the hospital. What do you mean you are going to eat first...seriously???)

This is not my husband either nor a depiction of my husband - Google Images

The romantic gestures are just that....a gesture. When you have been married for a while you need more than a gesture; you need ACTION. That's where the "I need you" part comes in. It's about the rise to action. I know that I am loved more than ever because my husband is constantly in ACTION for me. Rising to the occasion. White knight on a charging steed. Battling dragons and evil queens (alright...so we still have issues with the mother-in-law from time to time) All that good jazz that requires love to be more than just words.

This is not my husband but Google Images - Thankyouverymuch


I know that if there is ever a time that I am stuck in the bathtub again screaming like a banshee "I NEED YOU!!!" he will be there. Laughing, pointing, getting the video camera for YouTube....but he will be there. (True story: I was 9 months pregnant and thought soaking in baby oil would stop a case of itching skin. I'll just let you imagine that one for a minute...you're welcome.) I know that we are way past the fluffy heart thing and into ACTION love.

Friday, February 11, 2011

Because I choose to be a mom...

There is a book club meeting and coffee in half an hour from now. I am missing it because I choose to be a mom.

There is a movie coming on tonight at 7pm that I really wanted to see. I am missing it because I choose to be a mom.

Some of my friends are leaving on a weekend drive and concert. I am missing it because I choose to be a mom.

My husband has the day off for Valentine's Day and our favorite restaurant is having a Sweetheart Special. I am missing it because I choose to be a mom.

My favorite clothing store is having a sale and the perfect pair of jeans is almost affordable. I am missing it because I choose to be a mom.

There was a perfect sunrise this morning that I got to see while feeding the baby. I didn't miss it because I am a mom.

My oldest daughter pointed out the way the snow sparkles like diamonds in the sun and her little sister told a fascinating story about snow fairies, pirates and tea parties. I didn't miss it because I am a mom.

I got the wettest kiss ever from the baby because I made her a grilled cheese cut into perfect triangles. I didn't miss it because I am a mom.

I have a beautiful picture of 5 smiling stick figures on my fridge that is supposed to be our family. I didn't miss it because I am a mom.

I walked into the 3 year olds bedroom last night and kissed her. She sleepily opened her eyes, smiled and said "I love you, mom." I didn't miss it because I am a mom.

NOW...let's define "IT" in all the above situations.


There is a book club meeting and coffee in half an hour from now. I am missing TIME AWAY because I choose to be a mom.

There is a movie coming on tonight at 7pm that I really wanted to see. I am missing ENTERTAINMENT because I choose to be a mom.

Some of my friends are leaving on a weekend drive and concert. I am missing ME TIME because I choose to be a mom.

My husband has the day off for Valentine's Day and our favorite restaurant is having a Sweetheart Special. I am missing DINNER OUT because I choose to be a mom.

My favorite clothing store is having a sale and the perfect pair of jeans is almost affordable. I am missing SHOPPING because I choose to be a mom.

There was a perfect sunrise this morning that I got to see while feeding the baby. I didn't miss BEAUTY because I am a mom.

My oldest daughter pointed out the way the snow sparkles like diamonds in the sun and her little sister told a fascinating story about snow fairies, pirates and tea parties. I didn't miss MAGIC because I am a mom.


I got the wettest kiss ever from the baby because I made her a grilled cheese cut into perfect triangles. I didn't miss SIMPLE PLEASURES because I am a mom.


I have a beautiful picture of 5 smiling stick figures on my fridge that is supposed to be our family. I didn't miss WHAT'S IMPORTANT because I am a mom.


I walked into the 3 year olds bedroom last night and kissed her. She sleepily opened her eyes, smiled and said "I love you, mom." I didn't miss LOVE because I am a mom.

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